In this article, I will be covering the topic of basing your judgment on what was. In other words, allowing your past experiences to set limitations for what you can or cannot achieve in your life.
As we all know by now, we may perceive time as linear but it’s actually not. Everything is happening in the present moment. This being said, in this article I will be mentioning the terms “past” and “future” to explain better what I mean when I tell you not to base your judgment on your past experiences.
Example: Let’s say that Mary wants to manifest a reconciliation with Francis. However, they have been through a lot in the past. A lot of unlovely things were said and some unlovely things were done! She wants him back but she also keeps letting these things get in her way. She is doing her affirmations and letting her conscious mind chime in from time to time and remind her of the time when Francis said that he is never coming back to her. That throws her out of the state of the wish fulfilled and she suddenly starts worrying about whether or not he has free will, and if he does, would he actually come back to her after what he’s said and what she’s done? She comes to the conclusion that he would not. In other words, she decided that her future cannot be fundamentally different from her past and that her past actions will ripple through her future, making her live through the consequences of what had happened between the two of them.
This is just one of the many examples on how many of us sometimes get stuck in the mindset of judging our future by what we experienced in the past. It’s quite common to do that. That’s what we are taught, isn’t it? Actions have consequences. Karma this, karma that. You are paying for what you’ve done in the past life.
When it comes to Neville, he invites us to turn a completely new, blank page in our lives. He invites us to focus on what we want and not what we do not want.
“Attention is forceful in proportion to the narrowness of its focus, that is, when it is obsessed with a single idea or sensation. It is steadied and powerfully focused only by such an adjustment of the mind as permits you to see one thing only, for you steady the attention and increase its power by confining it.”
In the example I have given you, Mary’s attention isn’t exactly where she wants it to be or where it would ideally be if she wants to manifest this relationship back. It’s okay to have setbacks, as long as you don’t dwell on them. As long as you get back on track and know that a little setback here and there doesn’t mean a thing and you shouldn’t give it any power, you are good to go.
In this case, she is focused on what he had said in the past. Now, she could use the mental diet to counter these thoughts and remind herself of what Neville is teaching us: see only one thing, the wish fulfilled. Focusing on what Francis said in the past would, therefore, be counterproductive. However, if she doesn’t give that thought any power and reminds herself that she is the operant power in her reality, she will be back on track.
I am not saying that you ruin your manifestations when you have thoughts that do not serve you. Not at all. You can’t ruin something that is already a done deal, can you? The same way you can’t “ruin” having a neighbour if you wish for a second that you didn’t have them. If you return to the state of knowing that you have neighbours, well, you just closed the door, they can’t leave.
Back to Mary and Francis. The only way for Mary to “ruin” her manifestation is if she decides that the things that happened in the past are going to dictate her future. If she allows the experiences of her past to become the limits of what she can or cannot achieve in the future, then she is closing the door on this manifestation.
Let’s take another example. Many of you are focused on manifesting a career as well. Let’s say that an athlete wants to break the world record in high jump. Well, he has never done it before. Others have, but he, personally, has not. If he keeps thinking in such limiting terms and telling himself that it’s impossible because he has never done it before, he will never do it.
We know that our inner conversations are important. That’s why we never want our inner conversations to be discouraging. If you declare something to be impossible before you even tried it, you condemn yourself to failure.
That’s why the athlete that we are talking about should look at himself and talk to himself as somebody who is capable of breaking the world record. Why wouldn’t he be able to jump higher than anyone has jumped before? It’s not impossible. He may feel he needs to work towards it and that’s alright. As long as he keeps that mental picture of him being able to do it, he will succeed, when he is ready.
Back to our first example. We can help Mary by letting her read all of the lovely success stories of people manifesting their specific person back even though the person said they won’t come back. Or, even more importantly, in my opinion, invite her to test the Law! Test the Law on people who seem to be so stubborn and resistant to change. If she changes her inner conversations, she will see the results. She will also see that the past didn’t matter at all.
That brings us back to the fact that everything is happening right now. You see, even though Mary perceives the words that Francis said as something that happened in the past, when she is thinking about them, she is bringing them into her present moment. Bringing them into her present moment means that this story will continue existing. She just gave it life. But if she changes the way she thinks about it, if she focuses her attention on the loving outcome that she wants, then that’s the story that exists in the present moment.
I have told you guys before that the way I like to view reality and all the different options is by comparing the realities that I am not entertaining right now as frozen. Once I start giving them attention, I animate them.
In this case, Mary let that unlovely story about what Francis said to her stay frozen while she was focusing her attention on the story about him wanting to be with her. And then, if she for a second entertained the old story, well, it may have progressed a little bit because she animated it, but as soon as she took her attention away and gave it to the new story, the old story stayed frozen again and the new story was being animated.
That is also how I like to view the mental diet and any other technique, or the process of manifesting in general. You may entertain something unlovely, something that doesn’t serve you, for a second but as soon as you give your attention to something else, the old story, the one that doesn’t serve you, stops unfolding.
However, the main topic of this post is judging your future based on your past. Our belief in the consequences is what makes this possible. Another example would be working out. We believe that by working out, we will get toned. So, we do. But of course, there are also examples of people who go to the gym every day and can’t get toned for the love of them. What is the difference? Their inner conversations.
The first group believes without a doubt that their actions will have this type of consequences. The second group probably believes that there is something wrong with them and that makes it impossible for them to see the same consequences.
Once again we see that the “future” depends on what we are assuming right now.
If you base your assumptions on what had happened to you in the past, you may be limiting yourself. Why? Because you declare something to be possible or impossible based on your past experiences.
Free yourself from these shackles! Just because something was said or done in the “past”, doesn’t mean it cannot be changed in the “future”. Circumstances do not matter, remember?
Stop telling yourself you cannot achieve or be something just because you haven’t experienced it in the past or because your past experiences contradict it. You can. When you tell yourself you can’t, you are setting unnecessary limits on yourself. Your imagination can be radically creative. Embrace that.
“Therefore, when you know what you want, you must deliberately focus your attention on the feeling of your wish fulfilled until that feeling fills the mind and crowds all other ideas out of consciousness.”